Monthly Archives: March 2011

The Truth Is… YOU are beautiful, THEY are airbrushed

Of course we have all heard the saying, “Celebrities are airbrushed on the cover of magazines. You shouldn’t beat yourself up for not looking like them.” So yea, we all know it. No one is truly flawless, and while cameras can be brutal, the technology that can enhance the resulting images can be kind. We all know it, but sometimes are brains don’t always factor in what we know.

But I thought it would be nice to do this post, just as a reminder to all the naturally beautiful women out there, with maybe a pimple because of pms, or a wrinkle because of wisdom, or gray because between your boss, your kids, and your spouse, you don’t have time (or the energy) to get to a colorist — that hey, remember all of those “flaws” make you who you are, and that is truly beautiful. And if your kids and spouse ask you what you want for Christmas, tell them that Madonna’s airbrusher for the family holiday photo would totally rock.

Britney Spears
Lady O
Scarlett Johansson

The Older Man vs. The Younger Man … Ding Ding!

The other day, I read an interesting short article in Glamour Magazine on whether women should be willing to date older or younger men. The article was written from the perspective of two women, one married to an older man and one married to someone younger. In making their respective arguments. I must admit that both happily married women raise great pros.

Older Men:

  • Are like walking encyclopedias — they have lived so much more of life, that they are always good for an interesting story or fun fact
  • Can offer good career advice
  • Know how to make minor repairs to your car
  • Are expert back-rubbers
  • Don’t take the ‘argument bait’ — they can see your moody butt coming, and will just wait for the tide to turn instead of getting all hysterical

Younger Men:

  • Are ‘presoftened’ by the society of the last 30 years — Women’s rights, gay rights, he is just more open and more receptive
  • Are more willing to break gender roles — again, because of his presoftening, he is willing to change diapers, cook dinner, and do laundry and he is more than happy to support your career choices
Both sides of the article spoke to me. But here is what I think: in this day and age, with the divorce rate at almost 50% and more and more women reaching 40, 50 and still single (despite their efforts to find their soul mates), women need to be open to both groups of men. The older man you prefer may not always be the Jeopardy wiz or the calm in your PMS storm, he might be a stubborn bull who is so completely stuck in his ways, that there is just no way he can fit you and the things you want into his already rigid life. The younger man might not always be the progressive feminist, he might be the immature 25 year old that despite being out of undergrad for four years, is still the frat boy who does keg stands at your parent’s retirement party and smokes doobies during his lunch break.

So ladies, taste the rainbow. Being open to at least that first date. Try to take the age, race, height, etc. crap off the table for one evening, you may just find exactly what you need.

I Ain’t Gonna Play In Sun City

All this talk of celebrities that were paid big bucks to perform for Qaddafi has got me wondering — is there really any limit to the things human beings will do for money?

So people are going to argue that maybe, at the time, the performer had no idea who s/he was performing for… I guess I can probably believe that. But I also agree with the fact that it doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be accountable. I mean, isn’t that why you have all these people around you? Isn’t it someone’s job to do some homework / background check on the people you do private parties for? Even your neighborhood stripper sends someone ahead of her to make sure the bachelor party is on the up-and-up. Okay, I need to reel it in, I’m on the verge of creating a completely different conversation and blogpost.

I think that leaves us with this: there will be times in all of our lives when a decision has to be made — make the money or do the right thing. And sometimes, it’s on all of us, not just the responsibility of the Angela Davis or the Malcolm X or the Mahatma Gandhi… No, the school teacher, the waitress, the banker, the lawyer, the PR agent, and the Usher’s and Beyonce’s of the world also have to stand up.

In homage of this important lesson, I leave you with a very special song. Sun City is a great song by the music group Artists United Against Apartheid. Sun City is an interracial gambling resort in South Africa, located in a bantustan, a nominally independent area supposedly ruled by black Africans, in the middle of an impoverished community. Artists who played there during that troubled time in South Africa were considered in defiance of the United Nations-sanctioned cultural boycott against the Apartheid. Enjoy + remember to stand up for justice folks –